Pregnant? Considering Adoption?
This website is for birthmothers looking to place a child for adoption. If you are looking to adopt a child, please visit www.storksearch.org. Thank you.
Here you are at a very difficult time in your life. You have found yourself in an untimely pregnancy, and you aren't quite sure which way to turn. There was the consideration of abortion, but you are past that, or this was never a choice for you.
There is the thought of having a family member raise the child, but the family may not know, or your parents are too old, and your siblings already have their families.
Adoption does not have to be a final goodbye, but only "see you later sweetheart, I have sought out the best plan for your life. I will be in touch from time to time to see how you are doing and to let you know that I love you."
That is open or Semi-open adoption. However, that maybe to much for you to bare, and you would prefer no contact, the decision is yours.
As you can see, adoption has changed in leaps and bounds since the old days when they use to take the baby away, and you would never see the child again. Society has realized that it is important for all of us to know where our roots started, what our genetic make up is. This is why you are seeing more and more open adoption. It is a practice among adoption professionals that is encouraged.
Types of Adoption
There are many degrees of openness. There is the full open adoption, where the is constant contact between the birthparents and the adoptive couple and child. Usually visitations when it is convenient, sharing in holiday cards and gift, and pictures and video. There is semi - close, where openness in communication is encouraged, but not so many visitations.
Semi -Open Adoption
This is when cards and letters and video are exchanged through the agency, attorney, and or facilitator. Usually done three to four times a year. The last names and Address maybe with held.
Still somewhat practiced, but usually because of the birthmother request. This is where the baby is left at the hospital for the social worker to pick up, and the birthmother usually never sees that child after that.
The options today are always left up to the birthmother or parents. Going into an open situation gives you the experience of sharing in the child's life milestones, and always with regard to the privacy of the adopted parents, child and you. Closed as a choice can also let you continue with your life's plans in the most confidential matter.
There is a choice....
We are not a resource to find your child or adoptive parents. If you searching for your birthmother or child you gave up for adoption, you need to contact the agency that the child was placed with or visit www.adoption.com and click the reunite section.
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